Virus Panic unwarranted.

You really have to hand it to the idiots that are hording incredible stuff.

Read earth Abides from George R. Stewart.  Think of him being here.  written in 49, it still has a reality to it this week.

The 7 year itch.

This year on April 19th, I acknowledge my 7th year of living with another mans heart pumping inside my body. My first few years were quite extreme as I tried to recapture what I thought I had lost.
In the last few years it seems that I have become more or less apathetic in my struggle to retain my glory days.

I no longer feel the need to conquer my fears, or feel that I owe anybody anything. Yet,  I do on both accounts.

Much like my TV hero Capt. James Tiberius Kirk, I feel I must die alone, for I took nothing into this world, and I leave it with nothing. Along the way, I know I have made bad people rich, and good people suffer. I know I have worshiped the green monster called money. I have sought to rectify the evil thinking that permeates our society. Yet, all is as it is. It will no change for, or because of me.

Having been reduced to a begging soul, not for a religious savior, but a world where I need not be afraid to die because I cannot afford this months live sustaining medicines. Is it because of the lack of medicine. No. It is because of the people of the United States who are afraid of their voice. Afraid of the bankers and pharma whores. Afraid of a psycho in the White house. Afraid of Police and courts who only want to punish and not provide means to a healthy life.

This is the source of my apathy.

I cannot, change the mind of a person that believes what the media spews. I cannot change the mind of a corrupt government official who believe that the party they belong to is always right.

The ignorance of the unchallenging are the meek that inherit the earth. Good luck with that.

Friend Zoned

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I don’t know if a woman gets this situation, but I am speaking from  one guys side of what I think we feel and or otherwise ignore when it comes to being Friend Zoned.

First let us define friend zoned. As a guy, I think It means you had and interest in a sexual relationship with a woman/girl/whatever. However the relationshipee is not as accommodating as the relationshipor wants. They, unlike you, want to just be

“FRIENDS”

You start out, usually inebriated, and some woman is in an amorous mood, and you stupidly think it is all about you.

It is not

It is them wanting to establish a relationship, but they don’t approach it in a logical manner, thus they either wind up with some scumbag that is going to  do-em and dump-em. (if you are in the real friend zone, you will hear all about this.) Or, you will go off into a very predictable relationship advancement mode that I will explain later when I have analyzed thoroughly. In other words. Never.

So let us elucidate the structure of the friend zone:

It starts with a passionate kiss that sends your toes tingling. Then it is the quick grab, squeeze, feel under the table. No rejection there so you think you have a shot. THEN you buy her another two or three drinks. Mistake number one.  If you pick her up at the bar, and she keeps wanting you to buy drinks…. you are not getting personal with her tonight. If you do, you will be disappointed. Trust me.  However, this can also be a great chance to get to know her, but be careful because sometimes this can get very, very, very weird. Have your wingman ready to pull you off and shove you out the door.  Many times I have been saved.  Thank you Benton, Dean, Doug, Mark, Don, Norm….  It goes on.

2nd Try.

This is surprisingly a very fluid moment. I hate to say it, but few go to the real relationship world. Most of the 2nd rounder’s are either the exile to the friend zone, or some very kick-ass-sex and never-want-to-talk-to-you-again developments.

3rd shot.

If you have gotten this far it can mean many  things.
You really like her and want to keep trying. (12% success rate.)

You think she is fun and by hanging wither her you will find other women. (success rate 42%)

Caution. This is a real test of the friend zone and if you find the woman who has declared you her man friend getting really negative to the woman you try to choose and explain to her, you should realize she has disrupted the force of the friend zone and you need to be either cautious or callus. I have used both techniques, and truthfully found that If I have been FZ’s I no longer really give a shit and find the callous approach has actually got me some anger lay’s so it is all in what you are looking for I guess.

Now if you have not taken her off Facebook, twitter and whatever, and have not removed her from your phone or blocked her calls, you still enjoy hanging around with and can have her pay for her drinks and introduce you to some decent chic’s.

NOW you are in the REAL FRIEND ZONE. 

OMG ( did I just type that?), this is heaven for a guy. I cannot describe the feeling of having a sister you can get drunk and hit on, knowing nothing will happen and will push you off when you are all hands or actually introduce to her nymph friend and you smile about it, either way.

That IS the ultimate female friend. You are a guy so no matter what, you still want to have sex with them. However, when you start not thinking about sex with them, then you can actually develop a good give and take. I think there is nothing better than a true female “friend”, but it usually takes a lot longer than either side will allow.

A final thought

Every once in awhile a friend becomes an FWB. That is Friends With Benefits. You can call each other and setup a drink meet and maybe have a physical night together. No worries, no regrets. It is kind of rare but, it is why guys develop a harem of gals. Usually 2 or 3 that kind of shuffle in and out of their lives. It is actually a very stable relationship if all parties realize it IS about friendship.

There are a lot of advantages to this system, but ownership, childhood indoctrination and religious dominion keep these types of relationships at-bay.

So, you have been zoned. Accept it for what it is, but you need to start treating the person that zoned you as a buddy/pal/compadre, you will find most of the women cannot even handle that and it is adios… So be it.

 

 

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April-June 2016 Journal American Apitherapy Society How a Bee Sting Saved my Life: Poison as Medicine By Christie Wilcox, 24 March 2015 Ellie Lobel was ready to die. Then she was attacked by bees. …

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Non-Faith Based Non-Religious Drug and Alcohol Rehab Program

Opting for a Non-Faith Based Drug Rehab ProgramWhy Some Choose a Non-Religious Recovery OptionOne of the most important aspects for any drug rehabilitation program is the fact that it makes people feel comfortable. When a patient feels comfortable, the likelihood of the patient opening up during recovery, making lasting changes for the future, coming to terms with the addiction process and understanding how to keep destructive impulses and cravings at bay will all increase. Being in recovery can help forge connections with others and learn how to transition into ‘normal’ life when they leave the facility.Many of the programs throughout the nation use the same format first used in Alcoholics Anonymous. All of the steps of this process are codified in the “Big Book” of recovery. Even though this method may prove successful for some, others have indicated that they are uncomfortable with the fact that these steps seem rather close to taking on a religious concept with not enough emphasis on actual recovery.Understanding the DiscomfortThere is no denying that Alcoholics Anonymous (AA) has a history of religious tradition. The initial founders emphasized “universal spiritual values in daily living.” Some have suggested that many of the 12-steps are religious in nature. Some of the values that have an overtly religious tone include:Spread the wordImprove the connection to a Higher PowerTurn your life to the control of a Higher PowerAppeal to a Higher Power for helpGet Help Now!800-536-1459FIND YOUR PERFECT METHODUnderstand the different recovery methodologies available.EXPANSIVE OPTIONSEach recovery option offered is first carefully reviewed & selected just for you.IT’S 100% SAFE & CONFIDENTIALWe safeguard any and all information and keep it 100% safe.Even though many proponents will point out the fact that these steps do not use the word “God” (rather opting for “Higher Power”), this is not likely to be enough for its detractors. For example, certain group meetings may begin with prayer and others may come in to provide testimony as to how the program has managed to change their lives. Anyone who grew up with the Evangelical Christian and Baptist movement will consider these elements rather familiar. As a result, it may make some people who do not share these beliefs quite uncomfortable. Non-Religious Alternative OptionsBecause recovery options run on an independent basis, it means that they can approve their own methods as they establish themselves. This means customizing their program in such a way that it takes the use of a Higher Power out, perhaps not including prayer before or during meetings. This is one of the reasons that people opt for inpatient facilities for addiction that have a twelve-step element but do not contain overt religious messages.However, for many others, those seemingly minor adjustments are not enough to persuade them. Many find the entire twelve step process to be religious in nature and decide that they want an alternative format, opting for a non-faith based recovery program instead. Because AA and NA have such religious undertones, the Ninth Circuit Court of Appeals in California determined in 2008 that forcibly attending Alcoholics Anonymous would cross the separation between church and state.Affiliation IssuesCountless studies have proven that recovery options only work if a patient believes in it and feels compelled to continue with that particular treatment. If a person feels uncomfortable with the discussion, or feels uncomfortable with potential support groups, it may become uncomfortable for them to attend these types of meetings. Simply put, if a person feels as though the information presented is relevant to them, the odds of them continuing upon the same road to recovery, increase dramatically.Studies have shown that the issue of religion is the defining issue, something that makes patients either less likely or more likely to continue their process. A study published in the Journal of Studies on Alcohol  revealed that almost 36% of those participants who attended Alcoholic Anonymous meetings felt negatively about their attendance. The study stated that the appeal to a Higher Power made many people feel uncomfortable. Perhaps some of those patients continue to attend meetings, but with such cognitive dissonance about the actual treatment itself, it is safe to assume that their attendance will not continue indefinitely even if the results appear promising.Of course, it is important to note that religion is not the only complaint that keeps people from attending these programs. Some obstacles that patients face have nothing to do with religion. For example, those who resisted treatment were sometimes simply not ready for a change according to a study published in the journal Substance Abuse and Misuse. Sometimes patients do not take the program seriously or do not believe they need help.Benefits of Non-Faith Based RehabThere are several reasons why patients may choose a non

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